The holiday season provides joy and optimism to most, however, many who are grieving will approach it with a sense of dread.

As family and friends join to celebrate or carry on with traditions, many who have lost a loved one may feel melancholy throughout the season. Some choose to withdraw and avoid celebrations they previously attended, while others refrain from participating in the seasonal activities that ignite memories of loss.

The question becomes, what is one to do when merriment surrounds them and all they feel is emptiness? Certainly, the grieving process is different for everyone, and whether you’ve lost a loved one recently or many years ago, know that your feelings of loss and grief are valid. The old saying “time heals” is true to a point, however, there is really no specific length of time that will ever pass when you don’t miss your loved one. With time most individuals are able to find moments of solace, reflecting on moments of joy, and seeking ways to honor their loved ones memory, even if tears come.

Grieving can be especially difficult if your loved one passed during or near the holiday season. “I anticipate people re-experiencing some of the grief that came with the loss of moments they had been looking forward to in the year,” said Dr. Anne Browning, Assistant Dean for Well Being at the University of Washington School of Medicine. “Known as an anniversary reaction, these are common feelings of stress, sadness, grief, anger, or anxiety that occur near or on the anniversary of a traumatic event or loss or approaching otherwise exciting milestones.

Understand that these reactions are normal, but the assistance of a mental health professional could provide benefits.”

Speaking to a therapist, counselor or social worker may be the key to helping you cope with your grief. These professionals are trained to listen without judgment, freeing you to be open and honest about your feelings, and helping you develop coping strategies and process your grief. If speaking with others facing similar challenges would be helpful, an array of grief support groups are available both in-person and virtually.

The staff at Elderwerks understands grief is complicated and messy sometimes, especially during the holidays. Please know you do not have to go it alone. Our team is happy to help you find local professionals who can help you find solace and peace this holiday season. Call our office at (847) 462-0885 or visit us at www.elderwerks.org.

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